Life Update: New Job

Hello! It’s been a while since my last blog post. Life kinda took over and left me without breath. Last week I went to see my family and basically took care of my mom. She hasn’t been feeling well (stress), and the doctors gave her muscle relaxants to help with her back pain ( life pain?). I did not really have a chance to sit down and write my thoughts down, but I did have time to catch up on some blogs! I love reading about personal finance! 🙂 I am such a nerd.

Guess where I am typing this blog post up? Just guess 🙂 In my office cubicle 🙂 I have a cubicle!!! A nice open concept cubicle. Today, I finished my second day of work, and so far so good. It’s a little intimidating, as any new experience is, but everyone is really nice and helpful. I hit the ground running with lots of training and meetings with co workers explaining me what they do. On my first day, I met over 50 people.On Monday, I was in the office from 7:30 am to 6:00 pm. Today, I was in from 8 am to 4:30 pm, and came back around 6 to take care of some random stuff and get some time alone.

I, also, found out last night that my husband’s car loan is not being paid off completely as his parents said some time ago.Side note: The agreement was that his car loan would be deducted from his paycheck and it would be part of his compensation. My husband is currently working for his dad’s company. His parents decided to change their minds claiming that now we have money coming in (I got a job), so we can easily pay off the loan.We really cannot fight this since everything was verbal. Sigh….both him and I are upset. I haven’t told him how upset I am. My husband had an opportunity to join a great company but turned it down because he wanted to help his dad. He is being underpaid, but wanted to help out the family business. His dad also knew about this opportunity and did not encourage him to pursue it. I understand his parents did help pay for his tuition…but…I don’t really know how to explain my feeling towards this. Part of me feels like my husband was cheated. Is it wrong for me to feel like this? Thankfully, my husband is looking for a better job, and hopefully will land one by August- September. Well back to the point. So, I think we owe about 5 grand right now on the car. Need to get more details. We have debt 😦

We signed our lease on an awesome apartment! The closet is huge. It’s four minutes from my office, and right next to great highways, just in case my husband has to travel.We move in August 23rd, not soon enough if you ask us. Remember when I said we were going to move in with my in laws during the transition period. I didn’t know where I was going to be working, and we were running low on funds. Well, I learned my lesson. His family is nice, but I miss our apartment. Neither one of us enjoys being there, so we find things/excuses to get out. We are going to start paying rent in July-August ($200-$300). I don’t mind paying rent, but my husband feels its a double standard because his sister and boyfriend have been living rent free plus food and gas for almost a year. I just want to get everything on to our account, and not want to owe anybody anything. So I don’t mind paying. It’s less than rent at an apartment. However, his parents are constantly reminding us how much help they give us, and then ask for certain conditions in return. I don’t know what to think. Part of me just wishes we would have spent our money on rent. The other part of me tells me to buckle up and deal with it. I am really grateful for their help, don’t get me wrong.I am alone in this?

So that’s what been happening in my life. I am really excited to move into our apartment. The next two months cannot go by fast enough! 🙂



19 responses to “Life Update: New Job

  1. Congrats all the new milestones in your life. Don’t worry about too many things at once. Take baby steps. “certain conditions” lol, like give them grandchildren someday? My parents had conditions for me too when I was living them. I didn’t like those conditions, so I moved out. Freedom is the best payment in the end :).

    • No no grandchildren anytime soon! We are so young, plus it wouldn’t be fair to anyone. Our current hours away from the house are 7 am – 9 pm. Sleep is from 11 pm to 5:30 am. Can’t wait for freedom! 🙂 Only two more months.

  2. It is okay to feel wronged in that situation, I most certainly would! And it’s hard because that is his family and at the end of the day, it’s his family. I don’t think it’s right that they are putting this burden on you guys at all and it’s frustrating because it sounds like he does so much to help with his family. Hopefully a new job will appear and you guys can start a new page.

  3. Congrats on the new job and glad you are finally moving into an apartment. Family situations are tricky. You want to stand your ground but also not rock the boat. I would say just go with the flow for now….get into the new place, and see what happens with your husband’s job. Sometimes time just takes care of itself.

    • Thanks for the advice! I am definitely just going with the flow. I notice every time I say something that rocks the boat, it does not go well! 🙂 For better or worse. LOL Part of being the outsider in the family; it just goes with the territory.

  4. Oh, I’m so super excited for you! Living independently is challenging, yet absolutely amazing experience. That’s why I moved out of my parents’ house and became financially independent when I was only 17! It’s a great challenge that helps you understand who you are, what you want from this life, without others imposing their opinions on you. Again, I’m super excited for you!

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